That one of the differences between being selfish/self-serving and acting with compassion is considering this: Fear of someone’s opinion of you is a selfish thing, based on what you want/need. Whereas honesty towards the other person, and respect for their needs, despite their opinion of you, is compassion, and if not selfless, then getting there.
They said it better than I did.
I haven’t been the best at this during my life; I’ve often been more concerned about what everyone else thinks of me, that I didn’t stop to consider how they may feel by my actions. I’ve made things the “Julie show.” It’s not something I want to do anymore, and it’s difficult to reroute my thoughts, but at the end of the day when you (I) look in the mirror, what I want to see is someone who took other people’s feelings into consideration, who acted consciously, not reacted.
The least I can say is this: I’m trying.
O: so im with a bunch of ppl
and one of them screams out
wow julie block is kissing a girl
They probably didn’t mean me, unless they were specifically talking about my Facebook photo.
O: they were
me: Do I even know these people?
O: signs off
A guide to understanding what chicks are really saying.
One of guys’ main complaints about those of my gender is that what we say is rarely what we ever mean. Well… this is true. They also complain that women don’t know what they want. Also true. However, the two are mutually exclusive – usually, when what you’re suspicious that the female in question is hiding something, she is – but she’s doing it because she knows what she wants and doesn’t want to admit to it.
I’m not sure if you watch The League (you should). It’s like, well. It’s the best thing on television. It’s smart, it’s obnoxious, it actually has a lot more depth than you’d assume, and it’s the absolutely best thing if you’re not feeling great.
It also has the best advice to men that I have frankly, ever seen.